Book Review: Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me?

DSC_0217In my last book review I promised that I would change up the genre with every review, so the genre for this review is non-fiction. Today I’ll be reviewing Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me? (And Other Concerns) by Mindy Kaling. It was recommended by my friend Joy (here’s a link to her blog, which is fab btw).

The book is a collection of essays that take you through the journey of her life, and they are as funny as they are genuine. She talks about her childhood, the entertainment industry, and the many quirks that make up her zany personality. I was never bored while reading this book, in true Mindy fashion, comedy is woven into every section.

I learned a lot while reading it, not just about Mindy but also on finding your strengths and making the most of them. I’m going to share of few of my favorite quotes and sections (If you didn’t know already Mindy is amazingly quotable). Some of them are funny and some are just sage pieces of advice.

On being thin: …on the list of things I want to do in my lifetime, that’s not near the top. I mean, it’s not near the bottom either. I’d say it’s right above “Learn to drive a Vespa”, but several notches below “Film a chase scene fro a movie.”

Mindy describing her relationship with her best friend: We clung to each other with blind loyalty, like Lord Voldemort and his snake, Nagini. I, of course, was Nagini. If you messed with one of us, you knew you messed with both of us, and Voldemort was going to case a murder spell on you, or Nagini was going to chomp on your jugular.

The exact level of fame that she wants to achieve: I want to rock harem pants or black lipstick like Gwen Stefani does and have people be like, “That’s just Mindy,” and then everyone starts doing it.

On people who constantly talk about how stressed they are: No one ever wants to hear how stressed out anyone else is, because most of the time everyone is stressed out. Going on and on in detail about how stressed out I am isn’t conversation. It’ll never lead anywhere. No one is going to say, “Wow, Mindy, you really have it especially bad. I have heard some stories of stress, but this just takes the cake.

On kick starting your career in a creative field (my favorite essay): If I can give one bit of advice to any drama major, high school theater kid, or inmate is reading this in a prison library with dreams of being cast in the prison play, it’s this: write your own part. It is the only way I’ve gotten anywhere. It is much harder work, but sometimes you have to take destiny into your own hands. It forces you to think about what your strengths are, and once you find them, you can showcase them, and no one can stop you.

I liked Mindy before reading this book, but now I wish I was her bff because she’s just amazing. She isn’t afraid of her flaws or her success. She’s proud of who she is and everything that she has achieved.

Have you read Mindy’s book? If so, what did you think of it?

Also, let me know if you have recommendations for what I should read next in the comment section!


  1. I have not read the book but it sounds like one that I would enjoy, thanks for sharing the review! Another non-fiction book you may like is Infinite Possibilities (The Art of Living Your Dreams) by Mike Dooley. Very inspiring!

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    • I’m doing ok. I hope you’re doing well also Lena!
      I love how full of life she is too. Glad I gave you a reminder to read her book! I’m sure you’ll love her even more after reading it just like I do!!!


  2. I didn’t think much of Mindy Kaling because of her character on the Office but then I reminded myself that it’s a character, not the person. Then I learned of all of their writing and producing accomplishments. She really surprised me. This is a book I’ve been curious to read for a while – I used to read her blog here and there too. She’s a great writer.

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    • Apparently that happens to all the time. She wrote a section of the book that is a list of all the similarities and differences between her and her character on the office lol.
      I get like that all the time as well when I get invested in a show or movie, I just have to remember that they’re just actors with lives of their own!


  3. I’m so glad you read my recommendation! And thanks so much for linking my blog 🙂 i found those parts you picked out hilarious too. You actually reminded me about a lot of them and they are still funny. I’m glad I got to know her more with this book. I actually started liking her on the mindy project. I never got into the office while it aired, but I ended up watching all the seasons on netflix. I’m glad though because I wouldn’t have liked her as much starting with the office because her character is mostly annoying but still funny. So I already liked her to start the seasons! Have you read the divergent series?

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    • Of course I read your recommendation!!!
      She’s great on the Mindy Project, comedy isn’t usually my thing but I love how her brand of comedy comes from being smart instead of just mean or crass. I’ve seen a lot of The Office and I like it but I don’t love it. I did think that the portion of the book where she listed the things that she has in common with character on The Office was really funny!
      Have you watched The Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, it’s on Netflix as well.
      I’ve read the first two but I haven’t read Allegiant yet! I read some spoilers about it (never a good idea) and I’m almost afraid to read it. Lol I know that’s crazy, I get so attached to characters! But I might finish that one for my next review.
      Have you read them?

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    • True. Mindy keeps it real at all times. She is so relatable that way!

      Omg I watched The Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt when it came out and it is hilarious! I love that she is stuck in the 90’s so she says things like “AS IF!!!” Lmao

      Same here. Read the first two and I just can’t get through the third one. But then again, I am only in the first few beginning chapters!

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