Everyone goes through points in life where you feel like your world is spiraling out of control. I have watched people that I love hurt themselves and others during these troubling times. What I have learned from the situations of hardship that I have either witnessed or experienced is this: there are many things that are out of your control, but you are always in control of yourself.
No one can control every force in life but you can take charge of the way that you internalize the situation. You have the power to turn something traumatic into a learning experience and grow as a person.
That being said, I’ve had my fair share of mini-meltdowns. However, I’ve picked up a few specific strategies to center myself when I am going through hard times.
1. Give yourself enough time to process what has happened.
You can’t move on to the future if you haven’t dealt with the present. Don’t ignore your emotions or try to drown them with destructive behavior. You can’t run from yourself forever. At some point you will have to deal with what you gone through.
Scream, cry, dance, or pray. Do what you need to do in order to let these powerful emotions run their course. No one should carry those heavy feelings around on their shoulders. You can’t move on until you let go.
2. Discover something that brings you joy.
Specifically, something that is personal to you. Do something that makes you happy. It doesn’t matter if it’s practicing yoga, baking, reading, or going outside for a walk. Relying on something that is an engaging outlet will allow you to remember what you love about life.
You can empower yourself. Friends and family bring us all an extraordinary amount of happiness, but you need to have outlets of expression and joy that you can control.
3. Be the change you wish to see in the world.
This nugget of wisdom comes to us from Mohandas Ghandi.
If you have been wronged or slighted just know that you don’t have to let those things bring you down. These situations can take you higher. It’s really easy to get bogged down on how unfair and unjust the world is, and you may start to think that fighting for a better future is pointless.
When you have moments of despair, take a moment to reflect on what you think could be better about the world and start doing it. Use your vision on how the world or maybe just your community could be improved and take action. If you can’t visualize this yourself then reflect on someone who is changing the world for better, and emulate them. By taking the higher road you might just become someone’s inspiration and be a catalyst for positive change in the rest of the world as well.